I like to wear body con. I don't care that I have a VBO and I am learning to feel more comfortable and good in myself. I like the style and don't think I should just wear a sack because I'm not a size 2.
So last week i wore a tight fitting dress. Not 'too tight', just figure hugging and I was feeling myself.
I got to the restaurant and one of my friend said 'i wish i could be that confident to wear that'.
I know she meant well but I just hate that as a compliment. It doesn't feel like a compliment at all, telling me i'm confident.
It's like 'wow you're delusional AF if you think you should be wearing that.'
I didn't say anything.
I then had a different friend say they loved me confidence.
Would they say that to a slim person? I doubt it.
Anyone else feel like this is not a compliment at all?
I know what you mean, but I think it depends on the context. Like it doesn't bother me when it comes from other big-bodied people. Example: I wore a bikini bathing suit this summer and my big-bodied friend said she wished she was confident enough to do the same.
I'm less comfortable when it comes from a person whose body size fits within what society considers acceptable, especially if I don't know the person.