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I have shoulder length hair with texture and layers.my hair is thick.

I need help with some fashion and confidence to try new things .I recently got married and want ideas that will look good on me I love preppy and sexy and adventurous clothes and also need ways that I can do my hair and makeup.

I've never been comfortable in any clothing. With my big belly I have a hard time finding pants that fit or tops that are long enough. I like black and gray mostly. I like to be comfortable and have never really been able to wear a dress or skirt or anything like that. I also have really large upper arm wings as I call them. I absolutely adore the goth type fashion, I just don't feel it would suit my body. Not sure where to shop or what to buy on a budget. Recently I found Kohls has had at least some athletic stuff that fits me okay. But I'm still living in leggings and men's t-shirts most of the time. Should I be wearing my pants up over my stomach? I do with leggings because I am short and they bunch up but I've never found jeans I could do that with that didn't cut into me when I sat down. And I get like a gap at my leg crease area where it looks like my pants are filled with air when I do wear them over my stomach. I'm just at a loss honestly. I'm 5'4 and 290. I carry most of my weight in my stomach (apron tummy) but I also have big thighs and my upper arms are saggy and floppy. In plus sized leggings and athletic/sweats I'm wearing a 1x, tops are usually 2x or 3x and jeans are anywhere from 18-22 but thats wearing them at my hip and not over my stomach. Suggestions would be appreciated.

So I met a guy on Bumble. We've had some back and forth and we have great chemistry.

My issue is that we've never really seen each other physically so he doesn't know that I'm plus sized and it's been a huge insecurity for me when dating. I want to date him and pursue this because it's been a hot minute since I've found someone I like this much but I know that I can't discuss my body image issues.

I'm currently on a journey to better myself and honestly, I didn't expect to meet someone. I'm scared that I won't meet someone like him again and then I'll die single and lonely. What do I do? How did you deal with the fear of rejection? Please shower me with your guidance, you self-loving and accepting god-like people.

Are you spending time with family? Friends?

I'm visiting family up state and having some time off. I need a vacation so bad!

Not looking forward to comments about my weight.

To inspire me to feel better in my body and for style inspiration. Who do you follow who's plus size and killing it?

Hey everyone,

I'm wondering if you have any tips on how to look expensive when plus size?

Like style tips or fabric types.. what are the items that really make you look put together?

Would love to hear everyone's tips!

We're having some family photos taken soon and I want a nice dress to wear for them. I would really love an off the shoulder maxi dress that's not too tight, but also doesn't look like a gigantic garbage bag.

I'm a size 18 and apple shaped, so ideally I want to hide my belly.

Any recommendations?

Ive got a lot of oversized t shirts in my closet because i thought it would hide my belly a bit better but i feel like it makes me look way bigger. Is there anyway i can style these without having to buy an entire new wardrobe? Any tips for jeans or leggings would be nice. I dont wear dresses or skirts.

Also any tips on what shirts i should be looking for. Im very self conscious on how my belly looks so i try to "hide" it

I really need some rain boots for an upcoming trip to the mountains. I'm not super outdoorsy but want some cute rain boots for the trip and to wear during wet weather days. I have big calves, so need something with wide fit!

Any recommendations?

I like to wear body con. I don't care that I have a VBO and I am learning to feel more comfortable and good in myself. I like the style and don't think I should just wear a sack because I'm not a size 2.

So last week i wore a tight fitting dress. Not 'too tight', just figure hugging and I was feeling myself.

I got to the restaurant and one of my friend said 'i wish i could be that confident to wear that'.

I know she meant well but I just hate that as a compliment. It doesn't feel like a compliment at all, telling me i'm confident.

It's like 'wow you're delusional AF if you think you should be wearing that.'

I didn't say anything.

I then had a different friend say they loved me confidence.

Would they say that to a slim person? I doubt it.

Anyone else feel like this is not a compliment at all?

hi everyone

im really into plaid at the moment, like the clueless style plaid Outfits.

i want to recreate the look but not sure where stocks this. im a size 18-20

Thanks!

I get anxious at the thought of flying. Not because i'm scared of the airplane, but because i'm scared of being on airplane while fat. I have gained weight this year and i'm now over 270lbs.

The last time I flew the seat was so tight, i barely fit in it.

Anyway I need to fly long distance soon and the thought of the flight has me so anxious cause I don’t think I’ll fit in the seat. Last time I flew was about 2 years ago and I did fit in the seat but in my head I imagined the people hated me.

I tried to get premium economy seats but the flight girl was telling me it won’t be much more width space then normal economy so I’m starting to lose my mind. I can't afford business, flight prices are really skyrocketing and there's no way I could spend that much on a return flight.

I guess I am looking for advice on flying while fat. I know i'll have to ask for a seatbelt extender. Is there a non-embarrassing way of doing that? Do I need to order it before hand?

What airlines have you flown before that have extra wide seats?

Thanks for your help.

You ladies were all so helpful last time I was looking for an interview outfit, so I would love to hear your advice again.

I've seen lots of inspiratino on here where plus ladies are wearing mom jeans and bootcut jeans, so I thought hey I'll try that myself as I wanted to try some different styles of jeans for once since I only have and wear skinny jeans.

Well I have now tried mom jeans and come to the conclusion that they are not for me. I tried wide leg jeans and again.. not for me.

So now.. first of all, I don't even know if what I'm looking for is "flared jeans", "bootcut jeans" or "bell bottom jeans", I feel like all of those are quite similar but do you guys have any idea if one of those would be most accurate for what I'm looking for?

So I'm looking for high waisted jeans that fit like skinny jeans all the way from the waist down until the knee area, where they would flare out more and more until they end (but also the flare doesn't have to be dramatic, just substantial enough to not just look like straight legs).

Also I would like to know your experiences on different jean fits as plus size people! Because I personally just don't find any other style of jeans flattering on me other than skinny jeans, and now maybe flared/bootcut/bellbottom jeans. Mom jeans and wide leg jeans just don't look flattering on my thighs at all, in my opinion.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I’ve seen a lot of shein try-on hauls on Youtube and TIktok recently and how their clothes are affordable and super trendy, but they seem too good to be true. Shein has a huge plus size section and so much variety which i'm really impressed with. the pictures of the styles look great.

But I have seen some pretty bad reviews on both Shein's website and also on other review sites. So what's the truth?

Are Youtubers just being paid to promote Shein when they're actually a shady shitty company?

I understand that fast fashion is not good and Shein is fast fashion But so is H&M, target, TJ Maxx, Forever21 and everyone still shops there.

Is Shein worse than any of these stores?

I am so broke and I need affordable plus size clothing, but tbh I’ve heard shein is not great quality and made out of cheap material - which I hate. However, I’ve also seen all these people doing hauls, looking super satisfied with their orders and having no complaints. What’s the truth tho? Help!!

Hi I've just joined insyze, I'm looking for some ideas on going out outfits , I've put on so much weight during lock down and lost all my confidence, I'm a uk size 22 on top and a 16-18 on bottom, really struggling with what to wear need some inspiration x