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The other day I was at my friend's house and her brother who hasn't seen me in 10 years came over. He kept saying how beautiful I was, but that I'm fat and that I should lose weight. I know he wasn't trying to be malicious or anything, but this is not the first time I got this type of a compliment paired with an insult (in fact, I hear it quite often from people) so I wasn't sure how to react. I mean, it sounds like he's trying to give me a compliment, but points out my flaws. I always shrug or laugh it off, but I don't know how I should react really. How do you cope with that kind of stuff?

I have PCOS and dark hair, so it really shows. I have to shave my neck, chin, mustache and middle brow twice a week. My legs are hairy due to my own laziness, but it is also a lot of work to get every single leg hair when I feel forced to. I'm most comfortable with shaving my armpits. What I hate the most is my stomach. It's covered in black hair with a black happy trail so it looks like I have a man's beer gut. I just do not feel attractive at all and it's a constant fight to remove hair all the time. I already have a long history of confidence issues, so I'm wondering if any y'all with the same hairiness found a way to not let it hinder you?

Hey guys, I know Torrid has a collection but I don't really love any of it. Anyone know of good places to get some pride clothes? Specifically the bisexual flag if possible. I'd love to support small businesses and queer creators if possible.

Hello!

im a forst time buyer and have tried to get the code for 20 percent off but its not coming through.

Are you able to getthat for me so I can check out?

thank you,

sarah

I want to get a spray tan at a salon but I feel insecure. I've gained weight and have fat rolls and my belly hangs now. Would I would need to lift my belly up to make sure it all gets tan? Is this a common thing? Any tips or advice would be amazing! Please and thank you 💕

Hey everyone!

Does anyone have any tips agains sweat? Specifically facial sweat?

I am constantly sweaty... boob and back sweat is fairly easy to hide, and I wear deodorant, so, I don't smell bad. However, my face looks like I had a shower in summer. I'm so self consious about it. Even when i'm wearing shorts and a tank top i'm still overheating.

I have a literal nightmare when it comes to finding shoes. I have wide feet and am a bit on the clumsy side (😂) so a good sturdy shoe is a must.

The problem I have a lot is that when I try on a new pair of shoes I'm like 'oh they are comfy' and then after wearing them for a while, my feet are covered in blisters. -even after I've worn the shoes a few times to 'break them in'.

Brands that I've found work for me (most of the time are Hotter Shoes and FitFlop. Where do you get your shoes from?

Hi everyone, I need your help deciding what to pack!

I'm going on trip to New Orleans/ Natchez and Nashville in like two weeks and need ideas of what to pack. I hear it's probably going to be humid so have resigned myself that my hair is going to be a humid mess. I really don't do well in the heat so the factor 50 and great big sun hat are a given! I've also already packed my anti-chafing shorts. Not the biggest fan of my arms (literally always wearing boleros and cardigans in holiday shots) and shorts are also a no-go (unless they are underne something) please send recommendations. Thanks

An old friend of mine is getting married and her husband to be is from Duluth, Minnesota, so they're having a lakeside wedding there in June.

What's the weather like at the time of year? Not sure what to wear! Drop some links and advice for a gal in need!

Hi, new here. I'm trying to revamp my style and wardrobe, but as an autistic and ADHD young cis-woman, I deal with sensory issues which includes issues with clothing textures and fit. I want to wear things that make me feel good, but it's hard to find items I can stand wearing for extended periods of time. My go to is looser fitting leggings and t-shirts, which isn't really a good look. Most of my wardrobe is loose, soft, shapeless, and rather frumpy. Do any of you have recommendations for brands/pieces that aren't scratchy, or might work for me while also looking good?

I have done the journey of self love and fat acceptance but I can't seem to accept my belly. Since I have PCOS that's where the majority of my weight goes, I generally like the rest of my body but I constantly want to hide my stomach. It's made finding a personal style very difficult, I only want to wear high waist loose pants and a crop top because that's what I'm comfortable in. It's getting harder to do since I don't have many clothes to begin with and I'm wearing the same things over and over again

I love seeing women with bigger stomachs absolutely slay a tight skirt or dress, I want to be that woman but I'm unsure where to start

Hi everyone. I’ve never posted in here before but been a long time reader and I have found so much about this space to be helpful.

I’ve been with my partner for 2 years now. For context, he is a thin cisgender man and I am a fat cisgender woman.

I’ve been going to a therapist in the last 6 months to work on my binge eating, which has always been something I struggled with, but especially since covid. I am really hopeful about my progress so far but it’s definitely hard..

My partner can eat whatever he wants and never put on an ounce of fat. He just doesn't gain weight ever, in fact he struggles to stay at his weight but eats so much.

And it triggers me. He can eat candy and popcorn and have 5 meals a day, whereas i'm trying to 'not restrict myself' but also control myself around food.

I don’t want to make him feel weird about his own eating habits or even call attention to them because I know how that’s felt for me with people.

Thanks for reading 💛

I've been wanting to start a big lifestyle change and make time to exercise. It's not just to lose some weight but also for mental health. There's a gym close by that I have tried out and I'm thinking of getting a personal trainer. The thing is, when I went to try out, I noticed that I'm the biggest one there.

A few years ago, I had a bad experience where someone called me a whale while I was working out.. It completely put me off going to the gym and I'm scared it will happen again.

But I really want to get back into it.

How do you cope with working out while fat in front of people? Are you self conscious? Do people say stuff? How do you ignore it?

Not tried either of the Kardashian brands yet, but they are nailing the size inclusivity. I was thinking of getting a bodysuit from Skims but they are expensive and also the model is basically a size 6. Anyone had a good experience?

Im looking at the Good American 'good classic boot' cut jeans. Again, they're on the pricier side. I'm happy paying for good quality that last longer.

Appreciate any reviews from a fellow plus size babe.