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Looking for a corset top in black.. any cute styles you've seen recently? Appreciate the help!

I've recently got into it with my bf who follows these supposedly perfect females on Insta and realized that I've put my lingerie up, and really don't bother to make myself cute anymore. He doesn't compliment me and I don't feel confident with him, the IG situation has made that a lot worse. What do you ladies do to make yourself feel more pretty? I'm not good at makeup but have been looking into tutorials.

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Ladies, I just wanted to share with you my reason for deciding to stop dating online. I found that because I was completely secure with my body and how I looked throwing yourself in the world of online dating can be a trigger for lowering your self esteem and maybe even falling into a slight depression.

Most of us know that guys will say some of the most disrespectul things to you without any regard to your feelings. Some will just automatically assume you are desperate because you are fat and so you will sleep with them. These are things that have made me feel low even on days when I was feeling very confident.

So I realized that their were certain things I needed to stay away from while I am on my journey of self love and body confidence.

1. Online Dating - You must have awareness of how awesome you are before you go into the lion's den. If you are still on that journey maybe consider doing meet up groups or other things instead of Bumble, Tinder, etc.

2. Friends - If you have friends that constantly talk negatively abou their body that can also be a trigger. I put in so much work into loving my body one day and then hanging out with friends that completely bash their bodies in front of me put me back into that same mentally that I was trying to get out of.

3. Trying on Clothes - This is almost irrelevant because of Covid but back in the day, I would feel so much shame and embarrassement trying on clothes with other women around me. Coming out of the dressing room in a size 20 while there is a girl in a size 4 right next to me always made me uncomfortable. Not knowing if that girl is thinking how fat I am. I promise you nobody cares that much what the girl in the next dressing room looks like. lol But I thought they did. I decided to just order online and try them on in the privacy of my own home. As the stores start to open back up again, I'm sure I won't feel like that anymore but sometimes it's nice to know what will trigger you and to stay away from it until you are in a healthier place.

So that being said, if anyone is struggling with loving their body, gaining confidence and a low amount of self - esteem I say know your triggers. If you really want to work on yourself, you don't need online dating right now anyways. Work on yourself and when you are in a good place those right ones will find you. And if you ready to date online, than go get it! Just put yourself first!

I’m having a dilemma deciding what to wear for an interview (it's for a tech startup). I believe the dress code is casual but I want to look smart for the interview.

I’ve heard that you should always wear your shirt tucked in but I have a somewhat large belly that hangs and I really don’t want it to be visible for the interview (which it will be if I wear a shirt tucked in). Is it ok to wear a shirt untucked? What kinds of shirts would look like they’re supposed to be untucked?

Should I just wear a tshirt? help!

After almost 2 years of homeoffice, the company I work for are starting to asking for people to come back into the office at least 3 days a week. I don't mind this balance, as we'll be working the remaining days at home and I think this is good for motivation.

The thing is... I have always been plus size and my whole life I've been the biggest person in the room. At work, I'm the biggest on my team. Although it used to bother me at high school, i've worked on my own body acceptance and self love to the point where I do feel fine with this and it doesn't bother me.

But here's the thing. Because of self isolating for so long and not moving much I have gained a lot of weight. I'm not putting pressure on myself about this and when I am ready I'll work on it but there is something stressing me now... my coworkers.

Don't get me wrong, my coworkers are nice and all, but they tend to talk A LOT about diets, gym, exercise, etc... diet culture overall. I am not a fan of diet culture but I tolerate such topics at work as long as no one attacks me or body shames me. The thing is they keep talking about how much weight they gained with covid on Slack and are already comparing a lot between each other about who got fatter, etc... No one has asked me or directly body shamed me. They also don't force me into the conversation, but they are really talking about it a lot.

I know very well I shouldn't care about what others think but I have a feeling everyone is gonna notice my weight gain and increase the diet/gym talk around me or stare and gossip about my size when we go back to the office next week ... it's silly because I've been working so hard on my confidence and self-love and usually such things don't get to me but suddenly this thought ocurred to me... Maybe I am a bit more sensitive.

I'm just not in the mood to come back to the office and listen to skinny and "average size" people complain all the time about how fat they are now while I stand there awkwardly... makes me feel weird.

It's also made me realize how much I don't miss watercooler diet culture talk. How do I handle this?

Like a tartan or check style pattern that is above the knee. I want to pair it with a band tee, so going for an edgy vibe.

Has anyone seen any cute plaid skirts out there? I'm a size 28.

Next week I’m going on vacation down south, which is obviously very hot at this time of year. I never wear clothes that show much skin and i'm very self conscious of my legs, cellulite and belly.

I usually wear a lot of sweatpants, leggings and oversized tees as this is what i've always been most comfortable in. I've been plus size for years and don't know what my style is anymore.

Since the weather is hot and humid, I figured I’d have to wear more of summer like clothes but I've never worn a bathing suit or shorts because I really hate my legs and arms. I just want to look comfortable and feel ok, because i'm going with another couple and don't want to be self conscious the whole time.

I'm looking for a classy romper that doesn't make me look lumpy or is too tight round the thighs.

Any recommendations?

I saw someone recommended Snag Tights on here recently and sorry if this has been covered before, but I searched and couldn't find an answer.

How do Snag Tights fit when you're tall? I'm around 5'10 and size 18, which puts me at the lower end of their E or F size so I should be fine, but since I've never ordered from them and they don't use inch/cm measurements for their size charts I want to make sure before I order anything from there.

My hips and upper thighs are pretty wide compared to the rest of my legs, so I find that a lot of times tights will fit fine everywhere else except my crotch and I end up with horrible chafing in that half-inch gap. It's so uncomfortable!

I've had enough tights that I sized up on that still didn't fit right that I don't trust easily on tights sizing. I also don't want to size up and then they fall down all the time.

Can anyone share their experience?

I love to see all bodies represented in shows especially plus-size and I don't mean just typecast as the 'fat friend.' What shows do you love to watch where the plus-size character actually has character development and is not just defined as being fat?

My top 3 are Annie in Shrill, Rae in My Mad Fat Diary and Queen Latifah in Last Holiday.

I'm in my early 30s and have always had pretty good skin. My face is definitely my favorite part about me, even when I've struggled with my body confidence issues and being fat, I always felt good still because at least my face was kinda pretty.

But now i'm getting older, I'm see fine lines on my face. I look older. It's giving me anxiety because I never considered my face changing would make me lose what little confidence I do have.

Has anyone felt like this? What are the anti-aging products you use?