I've recently got into it with my bf who follows these supposedly perfect females on Insta and realized that I've put my lingerie up, and really don't bother to make myself cute anymore. He doesn't compliment me and I don't feel confident with him, the IG situation has made that a lot worse. What do you ladies do to make yourself feel more pretty? I'm not good at makeup but have been looking into tutorials.
How to feel beautiful
Sorry to hear your bf hasn't been appreciating you. It sounds like the IG situation has made you feel more insecure and because of him not complimenting you and telling you your pretty, it makes it feel so much worse.
Firstly, remember your worth is not tied to him and his compliments, you can feel pretty with or without him.
But it also sounds to me like words of affirmation are one of your love languages, so one of the things you need from him is to tell you how he feels about you and finds you attractive.
Have you tried talking to him about how you feel he doesn't compliment you and you'd like to hear it once in a while? Do you compliment him and make him feel good? That's always a good place to start!
But to make yourself feel more pretty and confident in yourself is the most important thing. You want to do things that make me feel beautiful, strong and capable:
For me these are:
- Going for a walk and breathing in the fresh air
- Taking a shower or bath so I am all fresh and pretty
- Take good care of my skin
- Dance around in sexy underwear
- Buy a new piece of clothing that makes me feel amazing
- Try a new hairstyle or go for a haircut to freshen up my look (it's fun to be pampered)
When all else fails, remind myself that my worth is not tied to my appearance and I have so many other amazing qualities that I am beautiful regardless of my (insert insecurity here).
you are so beautiful and worthy, just the way you are. Keep reminding yourself and look after your heart.
Hey girl listen to the Boundless Heart podcast by L.C. - not trying to say dump the BF but that could be a great area to explore - relationship stuff.
IG is so funny- it's not real. It is totally curated. So you have to use it as an inspiration but not as a place to identify or be identified.
Get your heart and head in the place of joy & the confidence will follow.