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Help a sis with some intense fear of rejection

So I met a guy on Bumble. We've had some back and forth and we have great chemistry.

My issue is that we've never really seen each other physically so he doesn't know that I'm plus sized and it's been a huge insecurity for me when dating. I want to date him and pursue this because it's been a hot minute since I've found someone I like this much but I know that I can't discuss my body image issues.

I'm currently on a journey to better myself and honestly, I didn't expect to meet someone. I'm scared that I won't meet someone like him again and then I'll die single and lonely. What do I do? How did you deal with the fear of rejection? Please shower me with your guidance, you self-loving and accepting god-like people.

Created: over 2 years ago
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over 2 years

As a plus size woman myself, I say, ask to exchange pictures and see where it goes. Be honest with your pictures. Not every body is for everybody, but you don't know if you don't put yourself out there. If you don't make it a big deal and he's a man worth your time, he will be unfazed. If he acts weird, then let it go. From my experience, men like a woman who is confident in her skin. Put on your cutest outfit, snap a picture, and find out! Trust me, there are PLENTY of men out there that appreciate a plus sized body. 🔥

over 2 years

I assume you have both seen each others faces from profile pics? I can honestly say that if there is chemistry and he has seen your face, the changes that he will reject you are almost zero! I advice against the idea of sending a picture to "test the waters". You don't need to 'warn him' about your weight.

You are a gorgeous women and you should believe in yourself. If he rejects you (and that's a BIG "IF") then his loss! You won't die alone and single, I won't be the one who will tell you that there are "plenty fish in the sea", because that's bull. But I do say that a beautiful women like yourself will find love!

Truth bomb incoming: men (and I mean, good men, not mysognists who want a Victoria secret angel lingerie model while looking like a ogre) don't care about weight. If he rejects you because of it, you simply dodged a bullet!

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over 2 years

First of all, get some perspective. There are 7 billion people on this planet. You might not meet someone like him again, but you’ll definitely meet someone else (if he rejects you), maybe someone better! Let’s take him off the pedestal, because that will cloud your judgement.

Being vulnerable is hard, but you’ll be fat with or w/out his “approval”. Unless you’re going to wait until you’re thin to date, than just ... date and accept that fact that putting yourself out there could mean getting rejected. It’s apart of the process and, if he rejects you, it’s not fair to automatically assume it’s because you’re fat and he didn’t like your body, don’t project your insecurities onto him. Anyways, give him and yourself a chance! If he doesn’t like your body than hey! He’s not for you.

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over 2 years

you won't die single and lonely! fear of rejection is hard, you just have to back yourself and remind yourself that your love for yourself is the most improtant love you can have. people will come and go in your life, but you're number 1.

I think it's good to send some pics. then if he is an asshole and superficial, you weed him out before wasting your time meeting him.

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over 2 years

Great advice ☺

For me I always include full length pictures on my profile. another thing you could do is maybe do a video call before meeting up .

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